Ask For What You Want!! YES: YOU!!!
Ask for what you want!!! It’s that simple.
In this audioblog, I discuss:
WHY it’s so important to ask for what you want!
The absence of EXPRESSION is REPRESSION… repression is the root of dis-ease… how can you feel good if you’re condemning large parts of yourself???
NOT getting what we want from another person can lead to: resentment, anger, hatred, jealousy, upset… NEGATIVE feelings….
HOWEVER, we cannot expect others to KNOW what we want and to GIVE us what we want if we don’t/can’t COMMUNICATE what we want!!
Are you falling into the trap of either: (1) GUARANTEES or (2) TESTS?
For example: are you not asking for what you want because you need a GUARANTEE first before you get it—wanting an advance on your desires before you OWN the fact you want them.
OR: TESTING other people to see if they can divine and give you EXACTLY what you want?… well… how’s that working out for you? Maybe it’s just a clever way of disguising your fear of disappointment.
Can you handle NOT getting what you want?
If not, you may be afraid even to ask – you may WANT what you want SO MUCH you cannot bear to hear “no.”…. however, if that’s the case – aren’t you just digging a deeper hole for yourself by DISMISSING THE POSSIBILITY OF A YES?
You see… so often people are so afraid of failure that…. THEY FAIL!!! There is only one truth to the matter though: you succeed every time you try… you fail when you quit or never try at all (remember the quote by Wayne Gretzky: you miss 100% of the shots you never take)….
There’s more to add to this… but just watch the video!!!
ONE FINAL NOTE:
Some people may think: THIS IS CRAZY! Don’t tell people to ask for what they want MORE: tell them to shut up and buck up and just be satisfied: NOW!
Sure, there are people who NAG and COMPLAIN. I’m Jewish with a Jewish mother – I know all about Kvetching…
The truth is this: ASKING FOR WHAT YOU WANT IS NOT THE SAME AS DEMANDING THAT THE OTHER PERSON GIVE IT TO YOU.
Those people who are “constantly asking for what they want”… so much so that you want to pull your hair out – are violating rule #1 for asking what you want: not expecting the other person to give it to you.
That is the secret. Express your desires clearly and without attachment. If they are necessary – or ultimatums – make that clear. So often I see people asking for what they want then, frustrated and disappointed about not getting it, run off into a torrential tantrum. This is not the way.
If it is something beyond a WANT – it is a need. And if you NEED it – and someone isn’t giving it to you – there is an easy solution: move on. Get it somewhere else. Why must this process be turbulent for so many when it is in fact so simple?
Much Love and Many Blessings
Ask for what you want NOW!