HOW TO GRACEFULLY AVOID THE 2 TRAPS OF THE EGO LIMITING OUR POTENTIAL
Trust the process.
There are two ways to fail: one is by quitting… the second is by never showing up.
The ego wants us to live in habit. It wishes for us to repeat exactly what we did yesterday today… Ever wonder why you just seem to keep dealing with the same problem over and over and OVER again?
We want to change, however, a little voice arises when the decision must be made to leap cheerfully or to stay on the ledge. This little voice is always there. Remember: courage is not the absence of fear–it is feeling the fear and doing it anyway. Here’s where people fail by not showing up. They’re afraid of even TRYING something new…
But then again, remember Einstein’s definition of insanity: trying the same thing over and over again expecting a different result. Your ego is insane. Mine is too. It’s okay to let it go. How well can you do if you take advice and listen to an insane person?
Now, a mistake would be to expect to do things perfectly your first try. Here’s where people fail by quitting. They step up to the plate, strike out, then think: oh, well this is just not for me. Do you see the rock and the hard place?
It’s a clever game the ego plays. On one hand, the ego sets you up NOT TO DO ANYTHING DIFFERENTLY in your life… thus, the ego is safe in its current, limited state. It tells you that if you just keep doing things the way your doing them SOME DAY you’ll do better… but as Martin Luther says–how often does ‘some day’ become never? If you fall into this trap you have failed by not even showing up.
On the other hand, the ego has a failsafe. Let’s just say YOU DO STEP UP to bat — moving around this seemingly insurmountable obstacle the ego sets up for the first step… well, now, unless you make constant vertical progress the ego tells you: LOOK! SEE! I WAS RIGHT: IT’S NOT WORKING. However, no one makes vertical progress! As Guru Prem says: if you take 10 steps forward and 7 steps back, you have a 30% succcess rate… making you a Hall-of-Famer if you were playing baseball.
It’s not that the ego has no patience. It’s just that it wants you to fail… and it’s so funny how we can be winning and still feel like we’re losing because we’re not keeping the score right.
Now, obviously, there are some cases where — INDEED — what you’re doing isn’t working as well as processes which would be better off avoided. However, it’s important that either way we RECOGNIZE these traps and not fall into them!\
How do you ACTUALLY avoid these two traps of the ego? You must trust the process. As Kierkegaard says: you must leap cheerfully. You must become a knight of faith…. and, whatever happens, as Nietzsche says, love your fate (amor fati). Thus, my motto: leap cheerfully and love your fate!
Have you ever significantly experienced either of these two traps before?